This is a principle that I think even the late great Dr.Stephen Covey would agree is “Universal”. Whatever the situation is; never RUN FROM your current status just to get away; rather, RUN TO a specific place that you would rather to be at.
This principle applies to nearly everything you do. If you see a traffic jam ahead, you should not make the first turn you see to avoid the gridlock. Think about an alternate route you may be able to access that will get you to your destination safely. My point is don’t respond with a knee jerk response. Sure, sometimes unplanned evasive maneuvers are necessary to avoid obvious injury but in most cases, you should always be aware of your surroundings and have an immediate plan B.
Did you know that soldiers that plant land mines do so anticipating what the natural response is going to be? If a bouncing Betty is in the ground at point A, when it discharges, the natural response for the squad will be to take cover in a ditch. This is where mine #2 is usually planted. Did you know that in America, most Americans enter buildings using the right door? My point is, the bad guys understand behavior predictability. We want to avoid danger, but we want to do so with our brain and not our nervous system.
Often, people get into places of employment they can’t tolerate because it was a better place to be than “homeless”. Even in this example, you ran to a poor choice of employment. (This is assuming they wouldn’t hire you at Microsoft). So you say to yourself: “At least it’s a paycheck”. Soon you find that selling rectal thermometers to medical offices is a real pain in the butt. (No pun intended) Your subconscious mind is telling you: “We gotta get out of this place” (If it’s the last thing we ever do). Using the “Run From” mentality, we often find ourselves leaping from the frying pan into the deep fat fryer. Here is where the proactive/completion backwards principle comes into play.
You tolerate selling rectal thermometers and do the best job you can. Even if you are flipping burgers, do the best you can and do not show resentment. Yet keep your eye on that job at Microsoft or Apple while you’re doing your best at your dead end job. Doing your best at whatever you do is a good habit to develop. It speaks more about you than your resume could ever expose. It also teaches you to appreciate all that you have been blessed with. (A secret to life). Future employers are quick to pick up on people that have good solid character.
Let me repeat, you always need to be aware of your surroundings. Whether it be walking from your penthouse to the parking lot, or walking from Fisherman’s wharf to the S.F. police station because your car got towed. Always be aware of your surroundings. Even in your car, check that car out in your rear view mirror. Are they following you home? Many home invasions happen when you are seen at an outdoor ATM. You’re followed home and not only are you robbed of your withdrawal, but if you look like Angelina Jolie, you can kiss goodbye your jewelry, big screen TV and your virginity. If you’re lucky, you’ll come out of it alive.
If you suspect you’re being followed, don’t race home. (Running From) Heaven knows you don’t want to lead the bad guys to your nest. I would instruct you to make a series of 4 right turns. Again, make sure you know where the turns lead to. If you see them shadowing you, don’t “RUN FROM” THEM. “RUN TO” The Police department. Are you starting to understand the principle? And should you be in the worst case scenario after the 4 right turns and you’re at a red light or behind traffic, keep them in your rear view mirror and if you see them exiting their vehicle, (being aware of your surroundings) leave room between you and the car in front of you and once they exit the vehicle and come towards you,(usually after a slight rear end collision) make your escape maneuver by passing the cars in front of you, or running the red light. If you have to, drive up on the side walk while wailing on your car’s horn.
The Bad Relationship
This is a situation that you should always try to avoid. This situation is often a result of RUNNING FROM LONELINESS and RUNNING TO the UNKNOWN for the sake of companionship or worse: “Low Self-esteem”. You should never be dependent on someone else. (This includes the government). You should go into a relationship standing on your own two feet so you can leave on your own two feet. It’s like leaving maneuverable space between your car and the car in front of you. Never the less, human emotions often get us into the social position of selling rectal thermometers. But what’s worse than a miserable job is being abused physically and perhaps mentally by a person you thought loved you. In this case, as before, that voice is singing the old “Animals” song: “We gotta get outta this place”. And I would imply that it is a good Idea to have a plan B for the unexpected. Just like making 4 right turns and leaving space in front of your vehicle, know where you can RUN TO should you need to get away from a bad situation. Consider your parents’ house if you have them. Or if you must; consider a shelter for the abused. But don’t do it because you are running from him or her. Do it because you are RUNNING TO a safer and more preferable life. We are spirits in human bodies and we make mistakes. I truly do believe the only bad mistakes are the ones you do not learn from or “survive”.
In closing I wanted to leave you with this image. In the movies and television, we’ve often seen the scene where the victims are being chased by the bad guys in a 1963 light blue Impala. The victim or victims are always running straight down the middle of the street or parking lot. As viewers, we ask ourselves or the person we’re sitting with: “Why don’t they just dash in between that row of cars or jump over that fence? They always try to outrun that Chevy 350 V8 engine with 400 plus braking horse power. This is because they are focused on RUNNING FROM the BAD GUYS and not RUNNING TO a SAFE PLACE.
Whether it’s in your car, your workplace, a conflict or your bedroom, always be aware of your surroundings and its’ proximity to your destination. It’s rarely a bad idea to constantly have a plan “B”.