Guys, did you ever wonder why you would get a Spontaneous almost painful Erection in High School just sitting in your English class? Perhaps it was because the hottest Cheer Leader was sitting in the row across from you and it was a Friday and all the Cheer Leaders wore their short skirts that day. Or maybe you had a hot teacher who just graduated with her teaching degree and it was late May and the school didn’t have air conditioning so she wore that skirt that kept creeping up her thighs every time she sat down at her desk, which was right in front of you and since she was the new teacher, she got a desk with no “modesty shield”. So you spent the whole hour staring between her uhmm “desk cabinet drawers”. You feared being called to stand up or even worse go to the chalk board and correct the poorly written paragraph while everyone in the class was wondering if that salami was your lunch in your front pocket.
It’s a response from the “Autonomic Nervous system”. It’s part of your “Sub-conscious” mind. If you’re like me and your stomach flutters when you see a window washer’s view of the street on TV from the 26th floor looking down, it’s your ANS sending a warning to your conscious mind. (Even if it’s just on the television). The Autonomic Nervous system is part of the same nervous system that tells your heart to beat, your lungs to inhale and exhale, and yes, it tells your sex organs to reproduce. It’s not something you can control especially if you’re a young virile male between the ages of 16 and 20. Unfortunately, this becomes a conditioned response that invades our conscious mind. So as we grow older, we maintain this stimulus response which causes many divorces and unwanted pregnancies in our society. (Or so I’m told) What makes this worse is that we’re scripted at a young age that sex is bad. And if you’ve read my blog, you know that “People basically don’t want what they don’t have; They want what they can’t have”. This causes problems once you’ve sworn an oath of exclusivity to another human. If it’s any comfort to the recently divorced cheater, It’s not the desire to have extra-marital sex that was your flaw, it was ignoring your commitment to your spouse that you were guilty of. There’s a fine line between wanting and seeking. It’s unfair because it’s normal to want, but a sin to seek.
1. intense sexual desire or appetite.
2. uncontrolled or illicit sexual desire or appetite; lecherousness.
3. a passionate or overmastering desire or craving (usually followed by for ): a lust for power.
4. ardent enthusiasm; zest; relish: an enviable lust for life.
1. to desire wrongfully, inordinately, or without due regard for the rights of others: to covet another’s property.
2. to wish for, especially eagerly: He won the prize they all coveted.
verb (used without object)
3. to have an inordinate or wrongful desire.
1.The material world, especially as surrounding humankind and existing independently of human activities.
3. the elements of the natural
world, as mountains, trees, animals, or rivers.
5. the universe, with all its phenomena.
Is it wrong to look at a member of the opposite sex with admiration and attraction? Judeo – Christian ethics admonish most forms of “Lust” and equate it with Lasciviousness. The verb Covet is usually preceded by the words “Thou shall not”.
and ends with, “They Neighbor’s ________ ” (fill in the hole) No pun intended.
If you look at the Webster dictionary definitions of Lust and Covet, it gives the religious admonishments a slightly different meaning. Jesus said: “Who so ever looks upon another woman, has committed lust in his heart”. Does that mean that if I stand and drool at the cover of the Sports Illustrated’s Kate Upton swim suit issue, I’m going to hell?
I say NO ! (emphatically)
If I live next door to Kate Upton and watch her sun bathe then go borrow a cup of sugar with a condom in my back pocket? Is that lust? Yes indeed. It’s the “Intention” motivated by the thought.
Thou Shalt not COVET thy Neighbors wife. (Or Car or House etc…) Does this mean that if I look at my neighbor’s Ferrari and say: “Golly gee; I wish I had one of those”. And I start a savings account for my 328, is that Coveting my neighbors car?
Again, NOPE !!!!
If I say: “Golly gee I want my neighbor’s car”. Then I wait until my neighbor goes out of town and I break into his garage and hot wire his 328 and hide it in a storage space across town; was that coveting? Yes. Same goes for my neighbors wife. But thank god in my neighborhood, I don’t have such temptations. (But you get the Idea) You’ve heard the famous wife saying look but don’t touch. I say, Judeo – Christian ethics say look but don’t plan. Or look but don’t think with (key word) Wanton.
Why do men enjoy staring at naked attractive women? Why does Cosmopolitan sell (or used to sell) millions of magazines with articles that start out “Have better sex….”? It’s because our maker designed us to be fruitful and to multiply. One of the many side effects of Estrogen and Testosterone is a “chemical” attraction to the opposite sex. In the pre-media days, I’m sure looks were based on health. (I’ve a great article on why we find certain people attractive). It’s nature. It’s the same physiology that makes dogs in heat “present” and males try to “Spread their DNA”. It’s natural to stand and stare at a beautiful woman or guy. To go any further determines if you are lusting or coveting. If not; you’re just acting the way you were wired. (well, for most of us) The ability to know the difference is what separates us from the animal kingdom.