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ERIC HOLDER HOSPITALIZED

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Attorney General Eric Holder was hospitalized today for “Faintness” and “a fluttering” feeling in his chest.

As much as I loathe this person and see him as America’s enemy #2, When I heard he was hospitalized my first thought was, perhaps America will get lucky and……..

Then I rose above that and saw the hatred the left had for President GW Bush.  And we are taught by higher powers to “Love our Enemies”.

So I said a little prayer for A.G. Holder and I do pray that his stay in the Hospital is not a serious stay and that he is healthy and able to testify for his role in Brian Terry’s death.  But I wish him no harm.  I wish him a speedy recovery.

This is the difference between the Right and the Left.  I can hate Eric Holder’s actions without carrying a personal hate for the man.

Get Well Mr. Holder

$7,000 worth of Free Advice

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Q and Woo

If you are struggling with anger management, I’ve got a great story that really helped me.

In 2006 I moved to the greatest city in the World, Monterey, California. Then after a year, I move 7 miles south to the elite neighborhood of Carmel.  But while in Monterey; I leased a condo on Del Monte Beach.  It was right on the Monterey Bay and the sound of the ocean waves as well as the vibration of the waves crashing put me to sleep at night.

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Del Monte Beach is one of the few “Dog Beaches” on the Monterey Peninsula.  But your dog must be on a leash.  As you can see; I own a German Shepherd and a Hybrid wolf.  They mind their business but keep an eye out for the “pack’s” safety.  Day after day idiot liberals would let their dogs run free on the beach because they felt that leashes were too cruel for animals.  Of course dogs that didn’t know better ended up in the jaws of my Shepherd who was obeying the law on the beach.

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It use to make me furious day after day.  I told my counselor that I just wanted to let my dog kill the next dog that was off leash that came running up to my dogs.  He said something very profound.  Here’s your 7K worth of free advice.  He said: “So you let your dog kill the next dog; what about tomorrow”?  The point being that there will always be ass holes in your life.  You can’t kill them all.  There will always be an endless abundance of stupid people in California.

That put life into perspective for me.  I was a minority in a sea of liberal idiots.  Saul Alinski is buried in Carmel.  So once I realized that I was getting upset over fools, I let my dogs defend themselves, then said to the owners: “You know the leash law isn’t just a law”. I changed my attitude towards these idiots and rather than getting mad: I just let them make fools of themselves.  fortunately my dogs would spit out little Fee Fee and never killed an animal on the beach.

To this day, I think of the same line whether I’m in a long traffic jam or a long line at the bank.  “You gonna kill them all?  What about tomorrow”?

Fortunately, here in Area 51, everyone owns German Shepherds and everyone keeps them on their leashes. The people here are responsible Republicans that care for their pets and are thoughtful of others.  So if you find yourself in a place like Carmel; you might think about moving.  If not, just keep in mind; The world will always have stupid people and you can’t kill them all so don’t let them upset you.

FACEBOOK IS 20/20

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Just as hindsight is 20/20; Facebook accounts can either make you count your blessings or make you gnash your teeth. I wrote an article about 7 years ago talking about the women in my life that were “special”. I don’t think Facebook was quite the attraction it is today, but that was a good thing in 2006.

Since then Facebook has added about 800 Million new accounts and several of the people on that list have had the courage to upload recent “profile pictures” (ah the good ol’ profile picture). I’m sure many of them are 10 years old, but it’s easy to tell how recent the profile pic is if they’ve uploaded other pictures of more recent events and you can’t really pick out which one is your old heart throb.

Since my article, I’ve been able to see pictures of about half of the people on that list.  One who was a real heart breaker just let things go and gave in to her hungry appetite and another who “was” a model is showing the results of long nights of partying and possibly serious drug and alcohol use. I was crushed because I thought I wasn’t good enough for either of them.

“Sometimes God’s greatest blessings are unanswered prayers” – Garth Brooks

My point is our childhood/early adult insecurities are there to protect us. Unfortunately, I blame the divorce rate in America for casting these insecurities on our country’s youth. When you lose a parent by divorce or by death at a young age, you try to replace that person with someone else. This is such a natural but flawed response. The cycle of insecurity only propagates more insecurity and more divorce.

Parents, the best thing you can do for your children is to love each other. To those 30 and under who have been abandoned by a parent; there is nothing wrong with you. Focus on being the best version of the person God meant for you to be.

YOUR MEANINGLESS LIFE

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THE IMPORTANCE OF A MISSION STATEMENT    

“THE MISSION STATEMENT MADE SIMPLE”

The Beatles, like any other band didn’t happen over night.  They played some of the filthiest dives In Hamburg as well as the ever so celebrated “Cavern Club”.  In other words, yes they were drawing an audience, but so was the guy with  who juggled hatchets.  It really wasn’t until the Beatles had a manager that they became the “Fab Four”.  Why? Because they hired someone that had a vision.  Fortunately his vision wasn’t filling his pockets with their money.  He had a Mission Statement.

What is this “Intimidating” word?  It’s not that hard to understand, but it’s one of the most important concepts for any carbon based life form.  It helps you define your goals in life.  It’s your career compass or GPS.  The life spectrum is like the light spectrum.  On the right side of the spectrum you have a Mission Statement driven life.  On the left; You have: “Maybe I’ll win the lottery this week”.

I’m not going to tell you how to live your life. But I do wonder what life would be like if we had a clue as to what happens after you’re “grave yard dead”. The French philosopher Pierre Teilhard de Chardin wrote, “We are not Human beings trying to have a spiritual experience; but Spiritual being having a human experience”.  How would you live your life if you knew you only had 6 months to live?

The truth is, you don’t know if you’re going to see the sunrise tomorrow.

A mission statement is something that guides individuals, companies, organizations and its’ branches or any entity that stands for something and wants to achieve it.  A mission statement is your purpose in life or business or your family.   A mission statement for a company such as the Ritz-Carlton Hotel would be something of the nature of: “We will provide our guests with every possible comfort affordable to make their stay as pleasant as possible”. (I just made that up)

Everything you do MUST pertain to your mission statement.  (This includes sleep, the food you eat, the vocabulary you use, everything) I’m not saying that everything you do has to be a major achievement towards your mission, but if you are striving to be a supermodel, avoiding a bag of chips has its’ place, just as choosing the right publicist.

THE LOST AND FOUND

Without a mission statement (written or not) you have no direction. You’re like a boat being tossed in the ocean without a rudder, sails or chart.  Without direction, you are lost. Some organizations take the mission statement so seriously that they have mission statements for each employee’s position. One mission statement for all employees at the Hilton Hotel is “never point. Always escort“. The problem is; without a mission statement, you truly lose direction. If you are an individual that wants to become the CEO of Warner Brothers, you can’t just say “I’d like to be” or “I’ll work my way towards it” .  BE SPECIFIC!

HOW A MISSION STATEMENT WORKS

A mission statement means that the single most important essence of your existence is to move towards becoming the CEO of Warner Brothers. If your’s is “I will become the CEO of Warner Brothers”. Then you have direction. You know where Warner Brothers is. You know What their Stock is worth. You know what they do. You know who the current CEO is and when he’s going to be replaced. But if you don’t know what company you want to become the CEO of, or if you don’t know if you want to be a CEO or a CFO, then you don’t have a mission statement.

WALDEN

Most people in life fall into the vast majority of those that don’t know what they want from life. As Henry David Thoreau wrote in “Walden”; “The mass of men lead lives of quiet desperation”. They don’t have a mission statement if even a clue of what they want to do in this life. Children are forced at the age of 17 to decide what their mission statements will be. They wonder what they will do when they leave the school system. Should I follow in my father’s footsteps? Should I find out who my father is? Should I be a doctor? Do I want a job to be rich?  Do I want to do good for mankind? Am I going to sell computers or drugs?  17 is just too young of an age to make these decisions for some. I know many professionals that chose a field just to keep up with the expectations of their piers or parents. Only to find themselves unhappy and seeking what they truly were meant to do.  On the other hand, the great German scientist, “Werner Von Braun” pretty much knew at the age of 8 that he wanted to build rockets and was attracted to astronomy.

When I was interviewed for a newspaper article the person interviewing me on the phone asked me about my philosophy on life. I told her that you needed to “find your voice” or that passion that gets you out of bed in the morning. It’s that one thing that you do that seems “timeless” when you do it. She soon confided in me that she was a former “registered nurse” that always wanted to be a writer. I knew a very talented “Plastic Surgeon” that had an important practice fixing scars on burn patients. I asked him what he enjoyed doing in his spare time. He responded, “My sculpting”. I was prepared to hear the usual response of “listen to music”, or “go hiking” etc… But he was passionate about sculpting. So much as to say that he wished he could afford to give up his practice to be a full time sculpture.

We all know deep inside that we have a special talent. This talent should become a purpose for your life. Without it, you are just 1.37 cents worth of chemicals waiting to die. I urge you to write down what your passion is. What would get you out of bed at 4 in the morning voluntarily to start work on?  Write it down, then start researching the steps involved in accomplishing it. How many years of college, or what city you would have to move to?  Then weigh the sacrifices versus the accomplishment. Most of us are frightened of the sacrifice.

But if it came easy, would you appreciate it?

The hardest part is finding what gets you out of bed when you would rather sleep in.

Identify the opportunities that “Thing” offers.  What’s the highest position you can achieve?  THINK BIG!

Develop a plan, (School, practice, managers, demographics etc…) and think long term.  What will the VCR market be like in 10 years?  (What’s this DVD crap)?  Once you know where you want to be, it’s like plotting directions from L.A. to Chicago on route 66.

GOOD LUCK

SILLY PREPPERS

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National Geographic ran a series for 3 seasons called “Doomsday Preppers”.  The intent was to make survivalists look like paranoid idiots.  After 5 years of Obama, should something happen which is NOT out of the question; it would appear we will be ruled by Paranoid Idiots.

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The show originally featured 3 scenarios and 3 different “Preppers” (name given to those “preparing” for a crisis) then, in game show fashion, the preppers would be given a score based on their plan and resources by a group of experts known only as “practical preppers”.  Following each scenario, they would give the odds of such a crisis happening.  Of course the show would say: “Our EXPERTS SAY” Then they would basically call the preppers crazy for preparing for things like: “The collapse of our currency”, The explosion of an electro-magnetic-pulse or EMP over the U.S. which would render most of America “Powerless”.  Some were preparing for “Biological Warfare” or Pandemics.  Some feared this administration would impose martial law.  (Oh no, that would never happen). What’s the emoticon for a smirk? I found the natural disasters interesting.  If you look at a map of the U.S. you have 5 to 6 major acts of nature you should be concerned about.

  1. Tsunamis – There’s not much you can do if you have that beautiful beach front property.  We’ve seen seismic activity in the Pacific Ocean over the last 10 years.  The Atlantic coastline is not immune either.  There is a part of Portugal that could fall into the Atlantic causing a huge Tsunami to hit the East Coast.
  2. Volcanic activity- The Yellowstone Caldera seemed to be of grave concern. It’s not your ordinary      Volcano, rather a Caldera or “Bowl”(a Super Volcano) that could erupt the size of 4-5 states in the mid north-west.       The concern is the ash cloud that would cause a nuclear winter type greenhouse effect.
  3. The devaluation of the dollar – This concern was the most popular.  Since Idiot Americans elected Barak      Hussein Obama; the deficit has gone from 9 Trillion to 17.3 trillion as of this article.  The ramifications of      an uncontrollable debt could lead to a myriad of causes for civil unrest.  Every month, the Federal Reserve pumps 75 Billion dollars of “Monopoly” (or FIAT) money into the banks to keep the stock market from crashing.  If this happens and our paper money is worthless, who is going to pay the police and the fire department.  The Iphone culture will become the old west overnight.
  4. The Major fault lines – The San Andreas fault is part of the Pacific ring of Fire.  You’ve heard the jokes about California falling into the ocean? That would be plausible if we had a “Super-quake”  Also mentioned is the      “New Madrid” fault which, once upon a time, made the Mississippi river      flow towards Canada.
  5. Biological Terrorism –This one is no joke as we’ve seen the Aviary flu and the Spanish flu reduce the world population by millions in the 20th century.  Many speculate that a dirty bomb or an aerosol bomb with Neuro-toxins or viruses could be released into our atmosphere by terrorists.
  6. Civil War – Many feel that Obama is setting up the country for an uncivil war.  He’s trying to rob the rich to feed the lazy.  This is American where Americans pride themselves on self-reliance.  The sales of guns are at an all-time high.  The country is at an all-time state of divisiveness.  You do the  math.

Food

After 3 years, most of the preppers saw Obama and the debt as the root of anything really bad that would bring an “End to the world as we know it” scenario to fruition.  Not necessarily an end to the world or even mankind; but an end to smart phones, microwave ovens and even conventional transportation.

Guns

I have an outline that anyone should be able to address just for the sake of a local emergency.  These 5 primary areas of concern should be addressed by you personally and don’t expect the government to send you a helicopter being flown by fucking Santa Clause.

  1. Water – Invest in a Waterbob.  BOB stands for “Bug Out Bag”  it’s a term that was coined in the Korean war.  Bugging out means you relocate really fast.  A waterbob is basically a waterbed mattress for fresh drinking water.  It will hold up to 300 gallons of drinking water.
  2. Food & Medications – Many people are not aware that once the electricity is out, everything will stop.  Including diesel pumps.  No trucks? No deliveries.  That means no prescription refills.  As for food, you want a minimum of 3 days.  Most people will be eating their canned green beans for 2 days.  The shelves at Wal-Mart will be clean in 45 minutes.
  3. Fire Arms/sufficient Ammo – Should you have food; you will need to protect it.  As I said, if the police and fire department aren’t getting paid, there will be no rule of law.  You (I’m sorry to inform you) will need to provide for your own common defense.  Look at what happened in New Orleans after Katrina hit.  Don’t be without adequate protection.  I recommend the “circle of defense”.
  4. First Aid – I can actually perform small surgical procedures in my home if I have to.  I’ve gone so far as to buy suture, dressings and of course masks and sterile gloves.  Do not count on the Hospitals being open
  5. Communication – This is last on the list as you will want to know what is going on.  Those with Ham or CB radios will be able to communicate outside of the community.  You should at least have a set of small walkie-talkies.
  6. As a bonus, you might consider a generator and a dirt bike.  The generator can help you out with “Well water” (Not running the refrigerator) and a dirt bike will be one of the more reliable forms of transportation with cars littering the highway.

Take my advice with some consideration.  It’s for your own good.  You’re not a kook if you plan in advance.

WHAT DID YOU SAY?

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Understanding is the key to communication

I remember in college this being the philosophical equivalent of the Chicken and the Egg. It’s true that you can’t communicate an Idea to another without verbalizing it or typing it, or sending smoke signals/semaphore/or even Morris code. And often, action is the surest form of communication.

However, the receiving aspect of communication is just as important as the sending aspect. In other words, If I don’t understand the message you sent to me; we failed to communicate. This happens often when using email. The absence of emotion, emphasis on syllables etc… all leads to miscommunication.

It’s like acoustical physics. If a tree is struck by lightning in the forest and nobody is around to hear it fall does it still make a sound?

If you’re upset with someone for not doing something you wanted them to do; tell them the why behind the emotion. Anger is a poor communication device. The Why behind the How is almost always more important in anything you do. I know this goes against military training, but in real life, it’s almost always more important. If you know what you are trying to mutually achieve, and why, then orders make sense and situations can be put into proper context.

Often miscommunication comes from a variety of flawed logic.

Assumptions are probably the most common source of miscommunication.

Insecurities causing insufficient data is also quite common.

Ignorance and fear of having to learn more than you want to know is also popular.

Selective hearing. (hearing what you want to hear)

And just insufficient data.

All of these can lead to fights, frustration, divorce, firings, war, you name it.

In the military, we were taught to:

1.Tell you what we were about to teach you.

2.Teach you the message.

3.Tell you what we just taught you.

Steven Covey suggests that when you listen to someone, listen as if you were going to be responsible for teaching it to someone else. He also describes active communication when he says “First seek to understand the other person, then attempt to be understood”

American Natives used what was called the Indian talking stick. When seated in a circle, one person would hold the stick and make his statement. Nobody else would be able to rebut the comment until they absolutely understood the person’s statement. Then and only then would the stick be handed to another person.

When we argue and fight, we’re not trying to communicate. While the other person is making their statement, we’re busy preparing our response, all the time ignoring what is being said. This is called the “collective monolog”.

There’s two old sayings. One is “God gave you 2 ears and one mouth for a reason”. (suggesting that listening is twice as important as speaking)

And I quote John Lennon who once said “When you’re drowning, you don’t say politely: I hope someone notices that I’m drowning and has the common decency to provide help. No you SCREAM FOR HELP”.

We should learn to utilize our ears and mouths in this manner. Listening is the key to understanding, which is the key to communication. Your mouth should be used for your self preservation. (eating, breathing and hollering when your drowning)

PHYSICAL PAIN VS. MEMORY PAIN

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Ace Andres House

I live with physical pain everyday of my life.  It’s kind of like depression in that you develop coping skills.  I’ve lived with “Memory Pain” since I was 11.  I’ve gotten very good at ignoring physical pain.  The Movie RAMBO comes to mind when Russians are electrocuting Stallone.  The Russian Col. Podovskop says: “I see you’re no stranger to pain”.  Sure it hurts, but there exists in the back of your mind a switch that gives you a small out of body experience.  It doesn’t stop the pain, but it puts you into a “rope-a-dope” frame of mind.

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Did you ever wonder why people faint when they see something frightening? That’s a form of neurogenic shock.  It’s actually a mental defense mechanism, a “circuit breaker”, (if I may), for your brain.

Neuro-Physiologists believe that our mind retains everything we witness or experience.  (The Good as well as the Painful) The only good thing about it is God has given us a wonderful gift of buffering the physical pain, yet lets us remember the truly pleasurable (to a degree).  Unlike the pleasurable, the physical pain often leaves visual scars.  That’s why we have long pants, turtle neck shirts and Sun glasses.

Unfortunately, there is another type of pain and pleasure that God allows you to live with.  It’s called (To use a blues term) “Memory Pain”.  That’s musician talk for Psychological pain.  Just as the memory of physical pain never really goes away; Psychological pain is a much more powerful factor in your “recall” mechanism.  Since the pain is “All in your head”.  When the recollection of a painful memory is recalled; the pain is almost as painful as feeling it for the first time.  Unfortunately, just as God buffers the recall of physical pain; memory pain is as real as if it were happening again.  Paradoxically, the good Psychological memories seem to get buffered or sometimes “buried” by the memory pain.

Baggage

So modern man or counselors have given this data in your memory banks a name. It’s called “Baggage”.

TIME HEALS

Todd Rundgren wrote a song called: “Time Heals”.  The title verse reads: “Time heals the wounds that no one can see”. I contend that time doesn’t heal memory pain; it only creates a mental scar.  It’s amazing how a song, or a smell (especially a smell) can rip open that scab.  Quantum physicists claim that the mind cannot tell the difference between a memory and reality, especially if the memory is based on reality and not a dream.

THE SUPPOSED CURE

Modern Psychiatry says that externalizing emotional pain is the answer to dealing with it.  From a more pragmatic approach, I reference Todd again.  In his song, “Parallel Lines”, Todd writes: “Understanding won’t satisfy the hunger”.  I guess with any 12 step program, understanding you have a problem is the first step (and only the first step) to dealing with it.  The problem is, only a severe case of amnesia can get rid of memory pain.  I’ve come to disbelieve in the concept of “Closure”.  If closure is defined as “Coping with a painful memory” then perhaps.

A person with a severe case of memory pain will be sitting in a 5 star restaurant and a the guy at the piano next to the waterfall will start playing a certain song and you immediately have to get up and excuse yourself to the restroom.  Wait til the tears stop, pull out your visine, compose yourself and make up an excuse about how you’re fighting a stomach bug.  It’s amazing what can trigger memory pain.  The worst part is that most of the time you can’t see it coming.  Here’s a tip: “The longer you internalize your pain, the harder it hits you when it decides to manifest.

MEN IN BLACK

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In the original movie “MEN IN BLACK” Tommy Lee Jones’ “covert” character is only able to see his former “loved one” from a satellite view.  He’s interrupted by his partner (Played by Will Smith) who uses the worn out cliché: “Well you know what they say? It’s better to have loved and lost than to have never have loved at all”.

Tommy Lee responds: “TRY IT”!

If the above doesn’t resonate to some degree with you; then you’re probably one of those self-centered, materialistic individuals that can shit on others then go onto ruin another person’s life.

EPILOGUE

Given the choice between the two?  I’ll take the physical pain.  I’ve lived with severe upper extremity pain since 1996.  In 2009 the pain escalated to a new level.  I say this with more than a grain of salt, but, you learn to live with physical pain.  You “manage” your physical pain.  Sometimes you’re no fun to be around, but you have no choice.

Emotional pain is not as persistent as the physical.  It hides its’ ugly head for months or years.  But just when you think you’re over it; it shows its’ self. Emotional pain is much more pernicious than physical pain.

ONE LAST OBSERVATION

As I said earlier, my mom died when I was 11.  That made 6th grade miserable.  I was acting out before I even knew what acting out was.  I apologize to my 6th grade teachers.  But I recall being sent to the office for being an asshole.  I had a destiny with the “Board” of education often know as corporal punishment.  What hurt the most was sitting in the secretary’s office waiting for my “ass whooping”.  But the secretary asked me if my Mom was a home, and boy was I in trouble.  I responded almost tearfully: “No mam, my mom is dead”.  Her paradigm shifted into apology mode.  That’s what hurt really bad.  It was public humiliation.  I can remember being struck on the ass with a fungo stick with holes in it, but it was nothing compared to the humiliation in the lobby.  I came out of the spanking with my dignity.  No tears.  But having to confess I had no mother?  That hurt.

LIFE AND DEATH

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It’s one of the greatest mysteries to mankind.  It’s right there with “How did we get here” and “What are we here for”?  Ask any E.R. doctor that’s revived a patient from death what He or She thinks about the concept of an after life.  Most will be quick to say, they believe that the brain continues to function in a realm that we cannot identify on this level of consciousness.  They’ve probably heard too many identical stories about the bright light.

The Reality TV Show “I Survived” had a spin off show called “I Survived….Beyond and Back. (ISB&B)  The stories were based on testifmonies then recreations of Near Death Experiences. (NDEs) If you want to read hundreds of these testimonies; There’s a website called The Near Death Experience Research Foundation (NDERF) The Url is http://www.NDERF.ORG.  Be sure to click on the drop down menu and

click on the button that says “Exceptional NDEs”

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In the 2nd Season of ISB&B, an Emergency Room doctor has a heart attack and is brain dead for almost 15 minutes.  In the medical world, if your brain goes without oxygen for 3 minutes, you are considered brain damaged.  If you do recover, your chances of walking, talking and thinking without impairment is very rare.  Your chances of winning the lottery is better.  But since the on-call E.R. doctor was a

friend of the patient, he would not give up.  My guess, (something the TV producers didn’t show) is that the E.R. doctor gave his friend every benefit of the doubt and pulled out all of the stops. (Cardio-epinephrin, Defibrillation, and 15 minutes of CPR) As you might have guessed, his friend came back with no brain damage at all.  This was incredible.  The first question his friend asked the patient once he was back was: “Did you see the White Light”?  The doctor/patient’s response was: “No but I entered the tunnel“.

If you read a hundred or so NDERF studies or watch the full series of ISB&B, there are several common stories the NDErs recall.

1. An out of body experience

2. Being drawn towards a Bright yet warm and loving white light.

3. Being greeted by relatives who have died.

4. A life review.  Some call it judgement

5. Some say they saw an entitiy they thought was Jesus.

6. Many heard a relative say: “It’s not your time” or were given a choice to return.

7. During the life review, the NDEr saw how every action had a reaction in the form of an unintended consequence.

8. When the soul returns to the body, almost all say they flew with a “swooshing” sound like that of a vacuum and were instantly back in their body.

9. Almost all of them said they no longer fear death because they know that the “soul” keeps on……

For the majority of the Series; the stories are the same.  Surgery goes bad, or an accident happens or the person is having a heart attack. Then they may have an out of body experience and see the surgical or first responders working on a body (not knowing it’s their body)  Then the deceased relatives greet them.  Then the Bright light.  Then they relive every moment of their life in a fast forward motion, yet every moment is lucid and it’s like they are “reliving” it. Then someone says: “It’s not your time”. Then the swooshing sound, then they’re back in their body.

HOWEVER ~

In the final episode of one season; A person identified as Matthew is shot in the head by a drive by shooter in Atlanta. In a split second he is dead and in a place he refers to as Hell. No bright light, no relatives, no warm puppies or tunnel. He’s shackled over an “abyss” and naked. He hears the moans and cries of others (gnashing of teeth) and feels nothing but FEAR and is surrounded by darkness.

You can go to the BIO site to watch this episode, but his message was, HELL DOES EXIST. It’s real and you’re soul (or quantum spiritual existence)is going to go to one of two places.

I’ve always preached (really) that you shouldn’t fear Hell or judgment day. FEAR TODAY. If you find yourself in HELL it’s because you didn’t take today seriously.

Beauty is in the Eye of the Viewer

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Cinderella

I once took a class called “Finding the Love of Your Life”.  It was a video course that was produced by Dr. Neil Clark Warren.  Yes the same Dr. Warren in his commercials for EHarmony.com. One section in the course focused on a question that has puzzled me all of my life.

Why do we find certain people more attractive than others? And why are some women perceived as very attractive to a majority of men?

Dr. Warren says it’s our childhood scripting that is the programming of our fantasy partner.  In other words: “Hollywood”.

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Somewhere in the DNA of the seeds of Puberty lay the visions of Beauty as described by Disney. If you study the characters of “Sleeping Beauty” “Snow White” or even “Cinderella” you’ll find that Disney preferred a light skinned Caucasian girl with Big Eyes, a small nose, and big lips. Prominent cheek bones were also common. These images are what keep cosmetic surgeons busy every day.  Rhinoplasty makes your nose smaller. Blepharoplasty makes your eye bigger (by reducing the eyelids). And of course what would Angelina Jolie be without collagen in those lips?

As you can see, This was the image little boys were told to look for; and the goal little girls were told to aim for. I guess it would have helped to be Nordic or Scandinavian.

Barbie        Jessica_0

So we go thru life using these mental images as what we need to attain to be successful in life. If you’re a minority; forget it. This isn’t the country for you. You blondes wonder why Hispanic girls have a chip on their shoulders? EVEN in the movie KING KONG the Gorilla was offered up a female human sacrifice with a BLONDE WIG. So can we blame Walt Disney for the 50% divorce rate in America Today? Perhaps there’s enough blame to go around all of Hollywood. But ultimately we only have ourselves to blame. Self-esteem is not something that comes from society’s norms. As children, we are taught with positive and negative re-enforcement. If we do something good, your parents tell you so. If you do something bad, you are admonished. So as children, we are always looking outside (from someone other than ourselves) for “confirmations” of our behavior.  Unfortunately, this doesn’t stop at behavior. We do the same thing for our profession, our lifestyle and of course our appearance.

In Science, we use what is called a “control” to determine what is normal to give us “desirable” results. And as humans, we want to use that same type of paradigm (pronounced “pair- uh- dime) or method of thinking. So as a young “virile” male; if I can mate with someone that looks like “Barbie”, then that reflects on my ability to attract women.  It says nothing about my ability to have a lasting relationship (see Hollywood marriages).
Dr. Warren went on to classify people that were seeking a mate in 3 categories.

1. Breezers – (I’m paraphrasing) or people that look like Hollywood’s perception of Beauty. These people never have to look for a date. Their always having people hit on them and their biggest problem is weeding out the one’s they dislike. I guess this would be the Jennifers, Brads, Bens and Angelinas of the world.

2. The Short Shrifted – You know who you are. I guess the best phrase that describes this bunch is from the Woody Allen movie “Annie Hall” Woody quotes Groucho Marx when describing his relationships. He says “I would never want to be in a club that would have me as a member”. I think this describes the sort of “Programmed” social suicide that keeps many humans from being happy. I’ve seen it many times with financially successful people. We don’t want what we don’t have; we want what we can’t have. Short Shrifted people think they’re too good for what has come their way. The problem is, all of their decision making criteria is based on physical attributes.

3. The desperate – Yes, these are people with just the opposite problem of the short Shrifted. They lack self-esteem and are drawn to anyone that will look at them twice. They mistake attention for attraction. It’s very sad because true beauty lies within the person. And these people sell themselves short.
Hollywood has sold us a bill of goods. They want us to think that a mindless bimbo has more going for her than mother Theresa. The more women gained from the civil rights movement of the 60’s; the more Hollywood has denigrated them by focusing on their physical attributes. True beauty doesn’t come from Revlon. It doesn’t come from having the right genetic makeup. It’s not about what you have, where you live, what you wear or what you drive. It’s about what you are. To millions of shallow girls, they find their role models in Britney Spears and Miley Cyrus. In their Hollywood programmed mind; “if only I could look like her all of my problems would be over”.

Jenbie

It’s very sad. As long as we keep using “Video” as a form of parenting, we will continue to support this self-destructive myth. When little girls long to be more like mother Theresa, or Sally Ride and Men start appreciating women as beings and not physical possessions; then will there be hope for future generations. Only then will the divorce rate start to decline. Only then will humanity start to scratch the surface of its’ potential.

A Tale of 2 Lincolns

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 five

Abraham Lincoln is the face on a 5 dollar bill.

 

When I’m in a “giving mood” I have no problems sharing a 5 with someone in need.  There in lays the problem. I’ve softened over the years.  Before the current disaster of an administration; I use to be harsh on “beggars”.  But before Obama, it was not hard to get a job

My story begins as I am entering the Carmel Crossroads Safeway grocery store.  I see an old grizzly guy in very faded woodland camouflage  He had a ZZ Top beard and looked thin.  He looked DOWN and I felt for the guy because I felt he was probably a fellow veteran.  So I told him on the way in: “Stick around brother and I’ll have something for you on the way out”.

3 days later I was walking Sasha and Wolfgang.  We came up on the cutest little 5 or 6 year old girl and her home made lemonade stand.  I was going to give her something just for showing a fine work ethic.  So I pull out a Five. (It’s all I have).  I gave it to her and she poured me a glass of minute maid lemonade. “It was the BEST lemonade I have ever consumed anywhere”.  As I was walking away with the 2 dogs I could hear in the background: ” HEY MOMMY LOOK”!  I felt really good to have made her day because she was looking really DOWN.

That same day I had to go to Safeway to pick up something I needed for dinner that night.  I saw the same guy in camos. He looks at me and says: “Can ya help a veteran”?  I said: “Bro, I gave you a five two days ago”.  His answer was: “You did”?

Now I’m not the first to say that I’m the most recognizable person on the Monterey peninsula after Clint Eastwood.  But like Einstein; I wear the same pants and shirt every day. I have several black mock turtle necks and 4 pair of modern camo pants.  I also have hair like Paul Stanley of Kiss.

So this guy had no clue that I had helped him out nor did he seem to care.  I meant nothing more than another sucker giving him money.

On the bright side, a few weeks later Sasha, Wolfgang and myself were walking and a cute little girl road by on her Bicycle and smiled at me and said: “HI”!  It took me a while to figure out that She was the little girl at the Lemon aid stand.  So you tell me who appreciated the five dollars?  Who did the money have the bigger effect on?

 The Lemon-aid was worth every penny